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If you want to find the reason why boys and girls (I also mean men and women throughout this post) crave for a relationship or friendship with the opposite sex, you obviously cannot find one. I think it is kinda situational because nowadays men and women can be found mixed together at almost every places (both at study and work). The desired relationship can be either friendship, romantic one, a physically attracted one but I believe it it is mostly something like "everyone has a boyfriend or girlfriend and I should also have one." The main mistake people make while starting a relationship is forgetting to define it. I agree that human relationships especially the opposite-sex ones are unpredictable. I have seen so many friendships ending up in wed locks.; likewise a lot of romantic relationships biting the dust in the long run. We all do not know what life has in store for us, so do relationships. I feel it would be better to define your relationship right in the beginning especially for the girls because you do not want to be snogged or caressed (no vulgarity intended) while watching a movie with your so called best friend.
This post is about LoveCriminal's views on boy-girl / men-women relationship. I have been getting repeated requests from my regular readers to write a blog post on my opinions on opposite sex relationship i.e. boy-girl relationship in case of teens or men-women relationship in case of adults. I have been trying to dodge this topic for quite some time because I was a little unsure about this topic and something was preventing me (dunno what). Anyway the time has come and here goes the post which I dedicate to one of my regular readers who I wish would not like her (yes it is a 'she') name to be mentioned. I would like to say thanks to her for making requests and inspiring me to write more.
This obviously does not mean that girls are innocent and pure. There are exceptions in each gender. Obviously, I have come across a few women who were very successful in maintaining diverse relationships (romantic, friendship and physical one) with a considerable number of men at the same time. I have seen some desperate boys and girls making statements like "a boy and a girl can never be friends without being sexually attracted at some point." Even though "sex" is a natural urge in humans, it does not mean that this sexual intention coexists with friendship. It exists and is the main stay in certain relationships beyond friendship, something like friendship with benefits (casual relationship). - I will save a post on this one some other time. Surprisingly, sex plays an important part in a considerable number of relationships (except "simple" friendship) - it may not be what the word means but just some snogging and caressing (which can be innocent too).
The most critical element in a relationship is commitment. Without commitment, the relationship will tumble down so soon without the individuals knowing what happened and why it happened. Do not ask me to define commitment because I am not good at defining complicated terms. like commitment. According to me, commitment is not magic to happen immediately; it is a slow process and is built over time and understanding. Commitment does not mean that either of the two in relationship are having a romantic run, even simple friendships could benefit from commitment and can transform into something wonderful to treasure. But remember, commitment does not mean being possessive. You have to respect your partner, they have an active social life too, they have the right to hang out with their friends (even the opposite sex ones). Do not put down rules like whom they should interact with and whom they should not. Too much rules and possessiveness are reasons why many relationships do not last.
I have come across many girls breaking a relationship by changing their mobile numbers - that means running away from the relationship. This is not a smart idea in my opinion. Every relationship has its own good and bad times and obviously the other person has the right to know that the relationship has ended and both can move on with their life. It is easily said than executed - I know. Try to put forward your reasons for breaking and listen to the other partner. The other partner will definitely have a series of questions if they really want to continue the relationship. If you can definitely answer their questions - yeah it is time to break the relationship. If you can't answer them, I would definitely say about thinking twice because it is like you are trying to distance yourself than breaking the relationship. If you still want to end the relationship, try to say as calmly as you can in a very neutral environment and try to make them understand. Hopefully, even they are not convinced completely they will accept the reality in time and move on with life. Breaking up hurts both for the "dumper" and the "dumpee." Breaking up can make your heart break but it will heal through time both for you and your ex ? (relationship goes here).
You may have a question like this, "hey lovecriminal, you have a given a short post on boy-girl relationship and what about friendship." Lovecriminal believes friendship is also a form of relationship and obviously every individual would have celebrated, celebrating and will celebrate a lot of friendships and why talk about this more. If you do indeed want a post to know LC's perspective on this "BUZZ ME" on the right column. I completely agree with Dior Yamasake's quote "Friends are the most important ingredient in this recipe of life."
